His Daughter Insisted That He Host Her Wedding, But When He Refused Due to a Restraining Order Against Her Mother, She Got Savage.

When the Original Poster (OP) allowed his stepdaughter to use their picturesque meadow and barn for her wedding, he never anticipated a similar request from his biological daughter. However, a bitter history with her mother and her side of the family, coupled with an expired restraining order, made the situation highly delicate. Now, as family tensions mount and with public accusations flying, OP faces a heart-wrenching decision.

A Past Wedding in a Meadow

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Two years ago, OP’s stepdaughter got married, and their backyard meadow served as the venue. The sprawling space was perfect to accommodate many guests. An empty barn was transformed into a dining area for the occasion.

Change of Plans

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OP’s daughter had initially chosen a different venue for her wedding. However, due to the pandemic, her chosen venue had to shut down permanently. This led her to consider her father’s home as the next option.

Unsettled Past

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OP’s ex-wife, the mother of the bride, had been a source of trouble for OP. OP had obtained a restraining order against her and some of her family members due to threats and harassment. The order expired the previous year, but the memories remained.

Father’s Concerns

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While the restraining order had expired, OP’s concerns hadn’t. He was wary of the possibility of more trouble, especially if his ex and her family had access to his home. Safety and security were paramount for him.

Heated Exchange

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The daughter was deeply upset by OP’s reluctance to offer his home to host her wedding. In a fit of frustration, she screamed at OP, something she had never done before. The tension between father and daughter reached its peak.

A Generous Offer

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Wanting to ensure his daughter had a memorable wedding, OP offered her $15,000 to book another venue. However, the daughter remained steadfast in her desire to use the meadow and barn.

A Delicate Situation

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The central concern for OP was the accessibility of his house, particularly the washrooms. Giving his ex and her family this kind of access made him uneasy. Yet, his daughter seemed unwavering in her choice.

Public Outcry

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The daughter took her grievances to Facebook, turning a private matter into a public debate. This not only alerted the extended family but also reignited tensions with the ex and her clan. OP found himself in the eye of a storm.

Blame Shifted

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As the Facebook post gained traction, blame was misdirected. Both OP’s wife and stepdaughter faced accusations of trying to sabotage the wedding. They were caught in the crossfire despite being innocent bystanders.

A Reluctant Agreement

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Feeling cornered and under pressure, OP considered letting his daughter use their home for the wedding. He hoped this would ease the tension and ensure a happy day for his daughter. Yet, apprehensions lingered in his mind.

Protective Measures

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To safeguard his wife and stepdaughter from potential confrontations, OP thought of asking them not to attend. While it might shield them from any direct confrontations, this decision was bound to spur other complications.

Cloud of Uncertainty

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The looming wedding date brought with it a cloud of uncertainty. With family divisions and unresolved issues at the forefront, OP grappled with his decision. His love for his daughter battled with his need for safety and peace.

The Weight of Public Opinion

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OP’s actions and decisions were constantly under scrutiny. His extended family had turned against him, and he felt isolated. The public outcry had added an extra layer of complexity to the situation.

Bridging the Gap

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Amid the chaos, there was a desperate need to bridge the gap between OP and his daughter. Their relationship had taken a hit, and both were hurting. Finding a way back to each other was crucial.

A Father’s Dilemma

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Caught between his protective instincts and his daughter’s wishes, OP faced a heartbreaking dilemma. Each decision came with its own set of challenges. OP was left questioning his choices, wondering if he was, indeed, in the wrong.

Was The Father’s Behavior Appropriate?

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OP posts his story online for feedback and perspective from the internet community. The readers in the forum had a lot of mixed views on the matter.

Forum Responds

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One reader said, “My own daughter just got married, and I provided financial support; if she had screamed at me about anything related to the wedding, you can be sure that financial support would have been withdrawn.

Another Commenter Thinks 

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Another responder wrote, “Your daughter is being demanding, and $15,000 for a new venue is a generous gift. Seems like the extended family loves the drama around this decision since she stirred the pot. Your house, your choice.

A Third View on The Story

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A different person stated, “Are you willing to destroy your marriage so your daughter can have a wedding in your backyard? Sacrificing your own marriage in favor of your daughter’s is not the way to go.

A Final Perspective on the Matter

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Another reader commented, “You did nothing wrong here. All this did was reveal the true character of your kid. That’s the sad part. The thing is, it would have come out sooner or later, so you’re better off if it came out now instead of later.

Peter Barlowe
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